Problems

Posted on June 2, 2008 12:32:31 PM PDT

Hello everyone!  I am new to this site.  I have a problem that I am open to any feedback on.  Here goes...

My sister (37), husband and their four children have moved into my 2BR condo.  I am a single parent of a teenage soon.  My sister does not work but her husband does.  Apparently their lease was up for their apartment and moved their things into storage.  They asked if they could stay with me until they move into their new apartment which would be ready in two weeks.  Two weeks have come and gone and I have since found out that they did not have a new apartment to move into, they have not contributed financially or around the home except for the first few days of their stay.  When I asked my sister how things were going, she told me that they've been looking and found an apartment.  She also said that her husband gets his check on the 9th and then they will be able to move.  Meanwhile, my neices have shared with me that their father gets paid every week.  As of yesterday, my brother-in-law tells me that they are not moving until the middle of the month so their rent will be prorated.

I have not asked them for money because I felt there was an urgent emergency for them to find a place to stay.  I have rules for my home (no drinking, smoking, eating in the LR, be mindful of others, etc.) which to my knowledge they are complying with.  However, my son has given up his bedroom and they constantly eat in that room.   I forgot to add we just moved into this condo and my son has never had the chance yet to sleep in his room. 

I really don't know what to do.  It is not the kids' fault that their parents are in this predicament but at the same time I feel as if I am being used.  If they would let the kids stay, I would gladly do so but it is really hard for me to come home to find my sister lying around the house when she could be cooking, cleaning or something to show appreciation. 

I feel as God's child I am to be a servant to others.  I love to help others but at the same time I don't want to become bitter.  Plus, I don't want to step on my sister's toes because to me she is not setting a good example of a responsible adult for my neices and son.  The kids obey and help out so well, I don't want to put them out.  It's not fair to them but I don't know how to get through this without me losing my temper or hurting someone's feelings. 

I must also add that my sister has a pattern of moving from place to place, not paying bills and 'staying with family until things get better'.  I just moved from out of state and feel that this is a new beginning for me and my son.  Any feedback is greatly appreciated. 

Sorry for the lengthy post!

Posted on February 2, 2008 6:07:08 AM PST

Thank you for that message jessicamk08. I am currently trying to deal without the meds. I have my good days and my bad days... I appreciate your help and advice. We just need to stay strong and know that God is watching over us! :) RIC

Posted on January 10, 2008 2:01:06 PM PST

I've taken a course in psychology and we covered anxiety disorders and such. I'm not saying that I'm right for you, but this is what I've done. I've been sick for about 4 years, and chronicly for about a year. I used to have anwiety about going out and doing things. A year ago, when this all began again, the anxiety was really bad. It used to be to the point that I didn't leave the house. I've learned to changed that without medication. Whenever I'm about go somewhere now, I just breath slowly and tell myself its going to be ok, and I'm not going to get sick. I know that sounds lame, but after awhile, it started to work. So now, whenever I feel those anxiety symptoms coming on, I just breath and realize that everythings going to be ok. Taking medication for it is normal. A lot of people suffer from anxiety.  Everybody has it, its part of being human. If the anxiety is a problem for you and it's effecting you life, take the medicine. You have nothing to lose, except the anxiety. RIC

Posted on January 9, 2008 7:54:01 PM PST

I would like someones take on anxiety & taking meds for it...My boyfriend really doesn't like the idea of taking meds, I don't want to take them but it does help me. I pray so much on this topic! I don't know what I should do, listen to my boyfriend and not take them and struggle with my anxiety or listen to the Doctor and take them... help! Does the bible say anything on this? RIC

Posted on December 21, 2007 2:30:38 PM PST

Hi, I am kind of in the same situation as afsyoung.  We are struggling with our own buisness that we have had since 2002.  We have lost pretty much everything but our home and our marriage and sometimes the marriage isn't that great because we are both under so much stress.  I know that God can and has taken care of us, but I have had depression for a number of years now and it is really hitting me hard.  Thanks if you all would pray for me.
RIC

Posted on October 16, 2007 6:27:41 PM PDT

I don't know if anyone even comes on here anymore, cuz there hasn't been any comments in a long time, but i'll share anyway. my mom and dad won't let me go to public school. i've been homeschooled for my whole life, but they still won't let me. i have this 'guy friend' who liked me, then i don't know how, but i got on his nerves or whatever. i don't realize what i did, but i'm sorry for whatever it was. then we were friends again. then he liked me. he didn't ask me out, be he said he liked me. now, i'm getting on his nerves again. i don't know what i'm doing to annoy him, and i try not to! i just don't know what t odo! i'm struggling with my weight. i've lost 44 pounds, but i still have more to go. sometimes i just hate my self. i don't really have anyone to talk to. i'm sad a lot, and i just want someone to understand me. i don't know what to do. i'm not to the point of suicidal thoughts, or being an emo or anything, but i'm so confused! i just don't know what to do. someone please help me. someone, anyone. please....... RIC

Posted on August 30, 2007 1:40:34 AM PDT

This is really a step out for me.  I never share my problems and I want erveryone to think my life is wonderful.  It has been a rough year.  My husband lost his job of 15 years, but found one quickly.  He did take a big paycut and we are struggling financially.  I know this is a valley and we just have to hold on.  But I am so scared.  What if we can't pay the bills. what happens if the new job doesn't work out?  I know I have God on my side and he will not give me more than I can hanfle.  I just need prayer RIC

Posted on August 18, 2007 10:13:48 AM PDT

I have a problem... hence the reason i joined...

Me & my dad used to be really close but lately it seems like i don't want to be around him or anyone at times!!!

does anyone else just feel like being alone most of the time?

Posted on July 23, 2007 1:04:27 PM PDT

Lately I've been feeling trapped into a life I don't want for several reasons. One reason is because of a medical condition I can't drive. And I live in a town with VERY limited public transportation. This means that I am either at home or at work and on the days that my husband is not at work and could drive me places, he doesn't feel like going anywhere. Secondly I live far from my side of the family and dearly miss them, I get to see some of them once maybe twice a year. And because of transportion I don't get to see his side of the family as often as I would like. The last thing is I am stuck in a dead end job, and desperately want to go back to school and finish my degree but financially and logistically I just don't know if that will ever happen. (he has been promising me I can return to school for 3 years, and I am no closer to that goal.) I just feel so trapped I don't know what to do! Does anyone have any ideas??? Thank you Laura RIC

Posted on June 4, 2007 6:57:22 AM PDT

oh Jeanna, is Nike the little hamster thing that u used to have as ur pic? RIC

Posted on June 4, 2007 6:56:06 AM PDT

hey Jeanna, is your guy friend doing ok? since you said that u think hes mad at God does that mean that he used to be christian and is not now or that he never was? RIC

Posted on April 22, 2007 4:52:52 PM PDT

bly the way thanks for the compliment about Nike RIC

Posted on April 22, 2007 4:50:12 PM PDT

no halfafishhes not saved i think hes mad at god RIC

Posted on April 17, 2007 6:05:25 PM PDT

Oh gosh, guys! did everyone hear about the Massacre at Virginia Tech yesterday??? Does anyone know for sure that raeofsunshine is okay!!?? i feel horrible for the families, and for the friends of people who were killed. and i feel bad, because the killer, i am just guessing was not a Christian, and he took his own life, so we alll know what happens. RIC

Posted on April 10, 2007 5:14:18 PM PDT

Yeah, he is, but he's very winey, and spoiled, and get his way all the time if his momhas any say about it! she has been really rude to me too. P.S. i am going to the allergy doctor for the first time tomorrow, and i am not really worried, but kinda nervous. RIC